How to curb negative emotions? The NIB Psychological Hub provides practical advice
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Anger and Aggression belong to the emotions of the negative spectrum, that seek to be realized and haunt the the bearer, i.e. the individual, by the time they are released. The implementation of the specified emotions comes in many forms. Some brightly demonstrate their feelings and show them to others, while others oppress them within themselves and do not allow them to be released. In both cases we can say that the adult is not taught to express his or her emotions, feelings and experiences correctly and in a socially acceptable way. War has heated up all our emotions, including the negative spectrum. We are all experiencing deeply, dynamically, vividly. Most people ask themselves, "Is it normal to feel this way now?", because we are supposed to be united, to help each other, to be humane, to be kind. The answer is: "Yes, it's normal! It is normal to be angry, to be mad, to feel guilty, to feel confused and many other feelings. It is important to call the emotions by their proper names (in accordance with the "here and now" feelings), to talk through them and to release them while remaining a mentally healthy person. How should this be done? You can, as we always recommend, get help from a competent professional, or you can do it yourself at home. 1. It is important to understand that anger and aggression are basic feelings and their main function is protection. If you feel anger, malice, irritability, aggression, it means you are protecting something valuable, namely yourself and your inner world. Please note that children express their anger when they are feeling rejected, unprotected, anxious, fearful and offended. Learning how to manage these feelings! 2. Change your attitude towards anger and aggression. Everyone gets angry, mad, irritated, furious. These are normal, ordinary feelings, which are important to accept, to acknowledge the possibility of their existence. 3. Make these emotions legal, allowed: "Yes, I have a right to be angry, this is a very unpleasant situation (or "made me angry")! 4. Give yourself a variety of ways to express your negative emotions in an acceptable way. For example, you can use a pillow (shout at it, beat it with your hands, feet, do whatever you feel like); use a pencil and scratch out paper, scrapbook ( if you feel like it, even draw); tear up newspapers, magazines; do any physical exercise, etc. 5. Use cold water: put your hands down, take a shower, apply a cold, wet towel to the areas that people feel and describe as "burning". After the tension has subsided a little, there will be a kind of state of relief - analyse the situation! When the negative emotions have been accepted, legalised and reacted to, it is time to discuss them, to think about your steps. It is important to allow yourself, even in times of war, to worry about yourself, your feelings and your health. A healthy personality is the key to Ukraine's effective and quick recovery. Keep and take care of yourself! The infographic can be viewed at the link: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1usMNVh2X7T4FAWQH5pGBL8wsn-d3kFKW/view?usp=share_link |